Welcome to November, or as I am retitling it, the Month of the Bitch! It's the season of reconnecting with home in all senses of the phrase, and it's also my birthday month and I'm bringing in more fun for that this year (hey to all my Sags!). 

Moon Moment

Moon: Waning gibbous

Next full or new moon: New moon on Nov 13, 4:27am EST. 

Seasonal moment: We are softening into the cold season, calling in our cozy feelings and beginning to tend our hearths. 

Astrological season: Mid Scorpio season

Be Your Own Bitch

In the late fall and winter, there is little room for what we don't need.

We're paring down, making sure we have the essentials: hot drinks, good community,  a warm home, good food, mental health support, spiritual connection. 

Do you get bummed out when you think of paring down? I used to too. But think about it this way: you're getting rid of all the shit you don't need that's cluttering up your life, and you're going to feel softer, clearer afterwards. 

This November, I'm supporting you to get rid 👏 of 👏 the 👏 unnecessary 👏. Think of it as getting your home all yummy for winter and becoming one confident ass witch all rolled into one. 

Allow me to start with one of my favorite places to clear the bullshit: let's talk about consent, baby!

If you're out on the witchy world of the internet, chances are you've come across something or someone advertising "Get your ex back with this spell!" or "Potent love spell to reel him in!" 

These things give me the Big Ew. Firstly, why the hell do you WANT them back? They broke up with you! The pain is real, don't get me wrong, but they literally just showed you they are not the right partner for you. Now you have this big, open void - and you know what loves a void? Magic. 

Secondly, those spells are extremely unethical. 

They are the nonconsensual kiss of the spell world. They say, "I don't care what you want, I am going to control you."

Which is pretty spooky, and not in the fun way. When I see this online, it's giving "I am not well." 

Folks are allowed to act this way. Hell, you are allowed to act this way, and so am I. And everyone who sees those kind of actions is allowed to say, "This person is not exhibiting good judgment. They are not safe to be around."

This November, take stock of who, what, when, where, why in your life feels like anything other than a cozy soft blanket. 

You can cry in a soft blanket.

You can grieve in a soft blanket.

You can snuggle and laugh in a soft blanket. 

You may notice that these are all vulnerable acts. Anything other than a cozy blanket feeling does not suit us for winter. 

Pare down what doesn't fit in your homes, both energetic and literal, the way you want them to feel this winter.

Let me be clear: I am repurposing the word bitch, in this moment, to mean "powerful and boundaried." Paring down is not a cruel act. It is a neutral act that says "we are not benefiting each other. I am going to move us apart." 

These action is in service of our collective healing, and you are a badass for seeing it clearly. 

❦

Some journal prompts:

What, in your gut, feels extraneous in your life right now? Why does your intuition tell you this is?

Where can you build a nest in your home, and how do you want to prepare it - sage it? Burn a candle? Put your favorite books there?

Just three more days!

Last chance to sign up for Monday's Shadow Party, where the welcome sign says "ENTER IF YOU DARE ;-)” and we're all wearing fishnet stockings and witch boots in our imaginations (or in reality!). Mondays could use a little spice.